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ANYONE who stays or goes back on a dating site is LOOKING for a new VICTIM!! lol sorry but thats the way it is. If they have no money or home etc they are looking for someone else to give it to them. BEWARE of these people…there may be a few who are genuine…but.. do you really want a LOSER or risk all you have worked and possibly allready fought for put at risk.
Unfortunately the INTERNET is full of USERS, not the least dating sites. ANYWAY this looser is now communicating with a young women who looks 18 says she is 28 lives overseas and lets face it.. is she who she says she is? Probably not…I suspect a case of stolen identity and he is about to be scammed big time. What would a young attractive woman want with a balding, fat, impotent and self centered man???
I am now laughing at him!!! Good luck to all Internet Daters and BE CAREFUL. TAKE YOUR TIME GETTING TO KNOW A PERSON, AND DO AS MANY CHECKS AS POSSIBLE. I think you need to let him know that he needs to stop doing this. Letting a friend use the account is no excuse or at least a very poor one. His friend could create a free profile…no need to use his.
Sounds like a pretty weak excuse to me. This just happened to me two days ago for a second time with a guy I was seeing for 7 months. We met online and a couple months ago I checked the site to see if he still had his profile up. He did. I texted him and he called me to explain why. I asked he take down his profile…. For shame I let this slide and continued to see him until recently. He played the image of a sweet, witty, sensitive guy that had lots of female friends.
there were many red flags that I ignored. What do you do when the guy you have been dating for over four years still has an active match. com site up? I recently moved in with my boyfriend of over four years and was using his computer.
I saw he had recently been on match. Do I confront him or just ignore it. Everything else is great. People like that are selfish, arrogant, users, I feel he used me as he could not find anyone else to stay long enough with him and tolerate him. I did, but now I rather be alone than be used.
Um…I think I would talk to him about it. so, similar story here except the guy i have been dating has stated he wants to take things slow and get to know me deeper over time, etc…. suggesting that he is interested long term. we talk every night and go out when our custody arrangements allow…however, after dating 4 months, he is still online every day.
I am not sure what to think really, other than it makes me feel like i would be 2nd choice. How do you suggest brining up this topic without being completely accusatory with someone?
I am having similar issues as these women…. I have been seeing someone for 4 months, we have had the talk about being boyfriend and girlfriend — which we now are. A few weeks ago, I noticed it was 3 days in a row.
It was driving me crazy, so I said something. I asked him if he was still looking for someone and he said no, that he had gotten a few emails from a woman out of our state and just read them. He has not been on there since, but has not deleted it yet either.
I also found out that he uses Flirt and Are You Interested through Facebook and it appears that on one of those sites he was recently active, although I am not sure how long it takes to not log into the account for it to say otherwise. I am not sure what to do or how long to wait to ask him about not deleting his account and also how to ask him about his other accounts.
Things have been going wonderful aside from this, he seems very genuine and kind, not the type of person to cheat at all. All of his past relationships were very long term. He talks of a future with me, so I am stumped on how to handle this, help please!!
same thng. he told me hs nt datng or seing anybody bt lately he said he needs to go to gym etc! i knw hes online a lot a day. whats the point? simply bec he wntd to check and flirt and meet othr women.
so sad and broken heartd. My ex boyfriend of 13 months flirted with women all the time, though I never felt threatened until a year into the relationship. His feelings had changed, he was flirting with a woman by text on his phone whose name he was lying about. I read the messages and confronted him, and he used the excuse that he did not cheat, flirts all the time, but he is also very insecure with himself and his age. We all flirt, sure, but this I consider cyber cheating. The other woman does not know that a girlfriend exists, and he thinks he is allowed and that it is not disrespectful.
We, of course, broke up, and he can now continue to look for whatever he thinks he deserves but will never find. com like mine was. I have the exact opposite problem.. Perhaps, you, Brad, can help me out and explain this. I met this guy a little over 3 weeks ago on POF… After going out every day for about 10 days, talking on the phone daily several times a day, and texting in between he complained that I still had a profile up on POF so did he.
I removed my profile; he HID his!!! and continued logging on daily!!! Then we had a discussion about being exclusive including removing profiles, etc. He did remove his profile from POF and match. what do you think about this, Brad? To me this sounds like some trust issues on his part that go deeper than the visibility of a dating profile. You were co-operative which again makes me think he just feels insecure. I too am going through a similar issue.
I have been with my guy for almost two years. Well his last stint out of town really had the jealousy wheels turning, for the reason mentioned above, as well as his recent induction into the world of Facebook in which I am nowhere to be found on his profile mentioned as a girlfriend or a picture and he listed he is interested in….
Maybe and advertisement? He read the mail, which was someone winking at him. No picture or other information and right after creating and logging in yesterday, he unsubscribed from emails. But did not delete his account. Glad to know there are others out there but it saddens me to know that this seems to be so common amongst mostly men.
If nothing comes of the browsing, is it worth mentioning and possibly creating a huge fight over? I think I just found my answer, as hard as it is to swallow.
If I went browsing on dating site, my wife would punch me in the nose and I support her in that decision. Why look at real people in your area and be tempted to contact them? There are issues with Match. com where if he were to open an email it can show him logged in without his know but…explaining away three different services is about impossible to do.
I really just wanna punch him the face!!! After my emotional abusive ex broke up with me I looked into his emails as I thought there was more to it. We lived together for two years. Anyway I saw an email he and his friend were sending eachother. And how he has to man up and give me the breakup speech. He met the ex before me on there and I asked him which one they met on and he said he forgot. And he always deleted his browser history.
I hate to say it but I am glad that I am not the only one to have been in this horrible position. Ladies, this is just pitiful.
We are strong and wonderful creatures so can we please start to act like it? This goes for me, too. After all, in my mind it is much, much better to be single and happy than to be with someone who makes you feel inadequate, insecure and overall lonely. I met a guy a year ago off match. For about months it was on and off. We went a great mount of time not seeing each other or talking. Over the summer we just randomly stopped talking.
This past September he initiated contact and we have been dating ever since. We talk on the phone every day and see each other times a week. In November I texted him and told him I really liked him and needed to know if he saw this going somewhere.
He said he really liked me too and that he was going with the flow. He said he is always busy and tired from work which he is , but would like to see each other more and see where it goes. I asked if he was dating anyone else and he said no.
I assumed after this conversion we were exclusive. The past three weeks he has been extremely busy more than usual and I have only seen him once. Some friends suggested that maybe he was dating other girls and recommended I check if he was still on match.
I reactivated my account yesterday, and looked him up, and sure enough he had logged on the day before. I checked again and he was online again today.
Im so heartbroken since we have known each other for almost a year now. I am currently going through what everyone on here has. This is the third guy I have dated that has done this. I am about ready to confront him about it when he comes down this weekend. He should not be surprised after all he is the one who said he would delete his. I just reactivated mine. I am waiting to see if he says anything about it.
WALK AWAY. Exclusivety if that is a word is what any serious relationship is about. There are somewhere guys who ARE looking for a serious relationship. COME ON GIRLS —-give them short shift if they stay online!!! Go online yourself then give him the flick!! Met on fitness-singles. Emailed for two months. Scheduled a visit to see me. Prior to his visit, my subscription ended, so I hid my profile so as not to get any more emails, though I did get some from previous corresponders.
I logged in now and then, and noticed for about a week his was still on. Another week goes by and his profile is gone. Clearly hidden. So then I got to checking his activity, while I was hidden.
Silly cat and mouse. What do you make of that? I know why mine is hidden and active now — checking on his activity. I wonder why his is hidden and active… any ideas other than he could be doing the same as I am? Anyway, we finally met in my state a couple of weekends ago. This is his typical MO from before we met, I just thought after meeting, claiming he had a great time, wants me to visit, wants to come back that he would contact more. Thoughts anyone? I really can only guess but I do think hiding the profile is a great first step.
so I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. A year into our relationship I found out that the same week he met me he had a one night stand and she became pregnant as the result.
I had a very hard time accepting this and I will admit it took me a long time to get over it. Also in the same month he became a father he took a vacation to Australia for a week to visit a long time female friend, who paid for the trip. I did not approve of this trip since she had told him in the past that she thought she was in love with him. He explained to me that she was married and had a family and her husband knew that he was coming to visit.
So again I had to get over it. About a year and a half onto our relationship I found that he had not signed out of his email so I started reading them. I couldnt believe my eyes! Messages from all kinds of women. So he took me to pick out a engagement ring and I forgave him. Now were two years into the relationship, I have never received the ring, I think he went and got his deposit back, and today I found him on a dating website. Hi Brad, I met my boyfriend from Okcupid.
He even have dreams and plans for our future. On our first month of our relationship, he introduced me to his family who were took a vacation here in US they from Ireland.
Regarding for sex, we usually have sex 3 times a week, thus, this really puzzled me. I also found this out that his lying that he will remove his account the said dating site. Brad, I need your advice. Vhalotte — I wrote another article that expanded on this topic that you can see here: His Profile is Still Active — Is He Interested or Not? I do think you need to bring this up with him.
I have been dating a guy for a year and a half — met through friends. We talked about marriage — we already have kids from prior realationships. I recently found out hes on a dating website — no pic, not paying account. I know his passwords so when i checked it, i found out that he browes pictures, and emailed 4 woman. He received many emails but he cant open since hes not a paying user. Should I confront him? Is this something men do just in their spare time, browse?
Is it cheating? I sent a note to POF to let them know that could cause problems! See if they fix it…. Another thing to consider — I may be wrong, but Match. com site. com and it does appear that it can show you active just by opening emails from them. However, this only happens if the profile is visible which often is the real problem. Thanks for the clarification about Match.
Internet dating certainly does complicate life…. but, I did manage to avoid a lot of heartache thanks to FB and a computer illiterate user.
The REAL story ~ he had jumped into a relationship with me, way too fast, and instead of being honest, he made up this story. has tried singlesnet. Saved me all that misery…… a good thing! I have been dating the same girl for almost 7 months now and her excuse for being online was originally that she wanted to try and get her 6 month guarantee money from Match. She told me this when were at the 4 month mark of dating. We are both in our 40s so game playing time should have been up long ago.
She acted offended that I would confront her about it and said she would take it down. Brads May 13, comments are very pertinent to my situation. Bottom line is this type of thing goes both ways. WOMEN PLAY GAMES TOO!!! Hi Jay I agree Women Play Games Too…. but we are not seeing a lot of comments from you GUYS on this space. Please Guys write Your Experience on here too, so at least we genuine women will have faith again..
that there are serious guys out there too….. Well I definitely know that this happens to guys too because it is currently happening to me right now. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 2 months now and I know for a fact that his dating profile is still active on the site me met on. It told me the time that comment was made and it turns out that he made that comment weeks after we had started dating. So I confronted him about it and he got upset that I had been snooping.
He said that the only reason he posted that was because the other guy said something nice about one of his pictures. So after a evening of arguing over the phone I ended up being the one who was apologizing for trying to undermine our relationship with distrust. So I told him I would delete my account so that this whole nightmare would be over….. do you think he had the courtesy to delete his too….. nope here we are another month later and it still says single and he still logs onto it daily i can see it without having an account.
I feel so confused right now and soooooo sick to think what he could be doing all of the time. We communicate with each other daily over the phone, video chatting, texting….. because we are in a long-distance relationship. He always tells me how much he loves me and our relationship is going so well…. this hurts so bad and I am so afraid to lose him….. but it seems like addressing this issue is the only way to know for sure. I just wish people would think about how much this kind of stuff really hurts the ones they claim to love so much 🙁.
Kick these morons — women OR men to the curb. The answer is obvious. First, rest assured that at the start of a relationship, many people keep their profiles open and check incoming emails. What about you? In this short conversation, you simply state how you feel about him without any false promises of the future , and you also let him know what you want from him. Be prepared for any response. You need to be clear about that before you have the conversation.
Remember that a guy may take longer to shut down his profile, even when you are exclusive. Be a woman of value who speaks up and knows her bottom line about how she wants to be treated.
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Posted by Sandy Weiner in communication skills in dating , dating after divorce , red flags in relationships 0 comments. Dear Sandy,. com, and I am upset and confused. I want to bring up that he is still online even though he says he wants to only date me. What does this mean? I want to be able to trust that he means what he says. How do I talk about the fact that my boyfriend still has an active online dating profile without turning him off?
First, rest assured that at the start of a relationship, many people keep their profiles open and check incoming emails. What about you? In this short conversation, you simply state how you feel about him without any false promises of the future , and you also let him know what you want from him. Be prepared for any response. You need to be clear about that before you have the conversation. Remember that a guy may take longer to shut down his profile, even when you are exclusive.
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Some dating sites that use longer profiles often display a short profile headline in her search results and match queue, right next to one or more of your profile pictures. He said he is always busy and tired from work which he is , but would like to see each other more and see where it goes. com profile down. Brad, thank you so much for this article and to all who commented. Now i have a trust issue with everyone else because of this matter.Not the words. Go here for even more short dating profile examples you can copy to use on any app! Which he did. Sorry this was long. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam.